A Survivor's Story
As part of our new campaign, #BehindClosedDoors, we've invited a series of guests to write blog posts for us on the topic of domestic abuse. We understand this is a deeply personal and sensitive topic, if you feel reading this blog post will be traumatising for you in any way, we advise caution. However, we are committed to opening the door on domestic abuse in our communities and we urge you to have these difficult conversations in our churches. You can find a host of resources to help you get started and advice on steps to take if you are concerned for yourself or someone you know.
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It took six months from the time I finally found the strength to make the decision to escape from my abusive marriage to the actual day I left. Throughout all that time I lived a double life, secrecy was imperative to my survival and I was helped by two Mothers` Union members who supported me in my search for accommodation, helping me to get out on the actual day I escaped with the few basic things I could legally take.
One member lent me her holiday cottage in which to hide until I could access my new home, storing my few belongings for me. In both cases these friends put themselves at risk, the most dangerous time for victim and supporters alike is when the perpetrator`s hold is finally broken.
The branch where I finally settled knew my situation and also welcomed me, fulfilling the M.U. objective relating to those whose lives have met with adversity. M.U. continues to motivate and give me the platform from which to highlight the shame of Domestic Abuse. I am also able to work directly with local refuges within our Diocese through, and on behalf of, Mothers` Union